Another Night

W. S. Merwin at the Newmark Theater was thinner than I expected.  He wore big beautiful brown leather moccasins and spoke slowly with deep authority, grace, and wit.  

He writes elegies to dogs.  He recited Hardy and Hadrian.  

I put up my feet, closed my eyes, nearly cried with relief.  Oh my goodness, a poet, alive, standing tall in this deep blue room.  Speaking about Listening and the loveliness of foxes.

Fancy

Mardi knew a woman who loved romantic comedies.  Everytime she saw one, she would break up with her boyfriend at the time.  She loved romantic comedies, but she couldn't reconcile her life to them.  Reality didn't live up to what she saw in the movies, the romance she could have, the whimsy she was missing.  I know people who get nervous about fiction, even more so about the movies.  They think you'll be like Mardi's woman, you'll fly high into the magic, then crash land back into the real world.  

I'm with those people sometimes.  I get an urge to go to the theater then rebuke the notion.  That's frippery, I'll tell myself, that's foolishness.  Don't get yourself whipped up into that nonsense, not when things are the way they are out here.  Don't convince yourself you can disappear into the make-believe. 

When I'm with those people, I don a black bonnet and thick, ugly socks.  I chop off my hair, crease it down the middle, and don't take care of my hands.  I'm a pragmatist.  PRAAAHHHHHHGGGG...

But I'm not really one of them.

I remembered that last night, when I slipped out of the movie theater having caught the 7:15 showing of Happy-Go-Lucky, the new film from Mike Leigh.

I'd been having a crummy day, got off of work and just slothed out on the couch all afternoon, and Kellam came home in the middle of it, witnessed my sloth.  I flared with shame, shocked by it.  I was ashamed and pissed off, at him and at myself, because Kellam would never sloth out on the couch in the afternoon, and that makes him a stand-up guy.  I'm not the stand-up guy that he is, and I don't have the balls to act like that's just fine with me.  Now I know that some people are just do-ers, they do, not because they're smarter or wiser or more mature or anything, they just DO stuff.  But so what that I'm not really a do-er, I know they're not better than me, I know this.

But, like I said, yesterday was a pretty crummy day, and at that moment, to get caught by a do-er not doing anything seemed like the most humiliating, damning thing in the world.  So, quickly and unconvincingly, I jetted, slipped away, mumbled something about needing to do something urgent downtown, something really important and intellectual.  Ha.

I went to see a movie called Happy-Go-Lucky, and into the movie, I didn't soar or disappear.  I just sat there, back-of-the-theater girl, and remained in myself, with myself, as I watched another story unfold.

Happy-Go-Lucky follows its heroine, Poppy Cross, through her mish-mash life, a life colored and sparkling with glitter, tempera paint, and leopard print boots.  She tromps around town, smiling into the gentle breeze, tipping her hat to strangers, teaching children how to fly and shout about in migration celebration.  I was, at first, appalled.  She's so cheery!  She's so flippant!  Her jokes are so lame!  I wondered, if I knew her, would I hate her.

But the film turned on my low expectations, that happiness is a frail shell, that a woman such as Poppy can't really be who she appears to be.  My poor imagination demands that a good story must steal away the trappings of happiness and reveal Truth.  (Truth, of course, being despair.) But to the credit of the filmmakers, things don't go my way.  Poppy is steadfast.  She remains steadfast, bright-colored and kind, not only in the nest of care and familiar love she has built for herself, a sort of Poppy-world, a world a lesser storyteller would never leave, but also into the world that I know, that you know, that is inhabited by angry people, little boy bullies, lonely homeless men, women fraught with worry, heavy with child.  Poppy remains steadfast into a world where the boundaries are sketchy, where you don't know what's what, where there is confusion, but maybe goodess, rage, but maybe hurt.

And so the trappings of happiness were not stolen away from Poppy, not the way I went in demanding.  Instead, in time, they wore off like a coat of paint, rubbed down, lived in.  And what was revealed was, indeed, truth, but not despair, not at all.  The truth revealed turned out to be Joy, a kind of joy I've seen before, a joy I recognize in my mother, cultivated and worked at day after day, chosen again and again in the face of angry people.  It is a joy worked for, a joy sought after, a joy decided upon.

I understand wariness of fiction.  If fiction was just flights of fancy, I'd eschew it, too.  But I see things sometimes that fly against fancy, bird against a bird, things that dig into a reality I recognize, things that say, Hold Up.  Wait a second.  Look- This is what you're for.  

photo: Robin Shwartz

Science

Reunion

Tonight Beth told me that I had beautiful feet, and I remembered that this is true.    

I've been living with people who hate feet, who get nervous around them, who'd wear tube socks with their sandals if it weren't for the dirty looks, and so all this time, I've put them away.  To be considerate, I guess.  

But I love my feet!  They are really nice.  Jason Le told me so when I was in 7th grade, my mom has loved them since I was born.  I know the feel of her hands on my soles as she held them still to trim my nails.  "These are Lee feet," she'd say and pull on a toe, "Like Bac Bac's."  

It feels kind of awful to realize you've forgotten something you really like about yourself, like taking your best friend for granted.  But in a way, tonight was like a happy reunion.  I came home and took another look down there.  Yes, indeed, they are very nice feet.  Look at you!  There you are!  

Yeah, Rosamund Purcell

Yesterday afternoon, I fell asleep on the couch after making a week's worth of angel-hair pasta folded up in red sauce with kale.  My apartment is too cold; we don't know how to transition into fall.  

The boys woke me up, bursting in the door, yelling, "DID YOU REMEMBER TO PICK UP BATTLESTAR GALACTICA FROM THE LIBRARY?  CLARA?"

"SHE DID!  SHE WINS!"  

Argh!  I couldn't feel my toes!  My jeans were stiff and cold!  But they were so joyful around me for remembering our new adventure, Season 1, science-fiction, that I carefully unfolded and stood up to remember my legs and rub in my eyes.  I love them, these boys, after all of these months.  I think they're mine.  They make so much noise, banging around, putting together plates of boy food, hot dogs and sandwich bricks, laughing at their own jokes, rubbing their bellies.  They're still a different animal, they're still apart.  But I want to stay with them, like family, like soup and bread, the way I want to stay with Theresa, forever.  

Home, Home, Home.

First Post

photo by alejandra laviada 

i wonder if i should go back to school some day and study something.  i have not been paying attention lately.  don't know what to look for in faces and trees.  i see the squirrels running with fruits in their mouths, and i tell myself, "think something!  quick!" 

"fat squirrel," i think, and end thought.  

don't know where to put things. 

the artist constructs her own agenda, a peg wall, and gathers things throughout the day to bring home at night.  facing the wall, she pins the gathered things up in different patterns.  she arranges her notes as if there were a symphony backing it all, she believes in the significance of her collections as fact.  

what does it mean that i want her conviction but refuse to act on my own?  what does it mean that i sit on my hands, even still.  well, they're cold, i rationalize, my fingers are stiff and the days are getting shorter.  i don't want to move yet.  i don't know yet why.  yet i'll watch everyone else in their dramatic whirls whirl on by.  yet i'll write, "should i go back to school?"

"do you think?"